‘I’m broke and now you’re leaving me’: Financially Ruined Man in Awe When After Years of Serial Cheating on His Wife is Served Divorce Papers

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    Posted by u/ThrowRA-Tomato41 11 hours ago AITAH for leaving my husband when he became poor?
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    My husband (M50) is absolutely dumbfounded that I (45F) am leaving him because he became broke. My husband and I fell in love 25 years ago and married. I supported him and he was lucky to fall into a career where he failed upwards. I have a comfortable job so while it doesn't pay as well, I can
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    expect a reasonable pension when I retire. He is a serial cheater. I found out when I was 30. I was devastated that he cheated once but I rationalized that it was a one time mistake. I later found out that he would cheat constantly and had in fact cheated throughout our marriage. I lost any sort of belief I
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    had in love because I believed that he would be one man who would never cheat. My prior boyfriend had cheated on me. My dad cheated on my mom. I grew up hearing that a man is only as loyal as his options. And my husband had a lot of options. He also had a lot of cash to flash. Honestly I stayed for the money. If
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    I was going to get cheated on, why not in a comfortable life? I didn't have to do chores, I didn't have to worry about money. I am a relatively modest person in some ways so I wouldn't spend money on a nice car or a luxurious house or expensive food. However I did invest in my face and body for both beauty and health.
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    My husband has a massive gambling problem and he lost his cushy job. He can't manage to find another one that pays well. He thought I would stay by his side and help him rebuild. I told him that I wanted a divorce. There was no point in being married to him if he didn't have money.
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    I retained a lawyer and served him divorce papers. My lawyer recommended I get out before my husband started draining retirement accounts I have no desire to date again. I can survive on my own. I enjoy my job and it pays me enough for a modest, comfortable living.
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    He was dumbfounded and very hurt. AITAH?
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    rocketmn69 11 hr. ago Tell him that one of his floozies back on his feet can help him get
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    EggcellentWriter. 10 hr. ago I doubt any of them would want him without the change to jingle in his pocket...
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    PureBeginning3545 8 hr. ago Leaving a serial cheater with financial issues is a courageous act of self-respect. Your decision to prioritize your well-being is commendable.
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    You're not wrong; you're reclaiming your life.
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    grumpy_hedgehog. 8 hr. ago Lol, no. Leaving someone you've only stayed with for the money is a concluded financial transaction, not some courageous act.
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    Impressive_Life6540 6 hr. ago Oh no, OP is NTA. Completely valid divorce, but it's not courageous to divorce him now that he has no money.
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    Jaded_Cheesecake_993 · 4 hr. ago No leaving someone who cheats on you and has treated you badly is a courageous act. Staying with them for money and then leaving them not because they cheated
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    on you but because they no longer have money makes you a gold digger. Staying with someone who treats you badly for the money makes you weak. I say ETA here and she's no better than he is.
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    Sweet-Fancy-Moses23 10 hr. ago My husband had a lot of options Not anymore.
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    thatgirlinny 8 hr. ago When OP options this story as a screenplay, I'm afraid her boozy but loyal red-headed best friend is going to have to snarl this line to whomever plays her when she has a moment of doubt before signing the papers.
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    FLAkay27 11 hr. ago NTA - you had me at cheating. The same reason you stayed is the same reason you're leaving.. money. You should've left a long time ago and this would be less confusing for him. But nonetheless, get on with your life.
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    Skullgirrl 10 hr. ago For real, he's a serial cheater how he gonna act "confused" when she wants to leave
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    goobitypoop 7 hr. ago spending 25 years in a sham marriage... can't even imagine.... that's a whole prime of one's life and people here are blowing off the internal cost of that
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    MT-Kintsugi- - 9 hr. ago Yeah... I can't feel too sorry for a cheater

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